Personal coaching in practice:

Mrs. A phoned me for a coaching session. Her job was causing dilemma-stress. She was thinking of applying for another job. During our conversation she discovered that she liked her job very much but she came home feeling exhausted every evening. She didn’t have enough energy left to do other things besides work. At the end of our coaching session she set a goal for herself: I want to come home after a day’s work feeling less tired so I have enough energy to do something with my spare time. During the following sessions we talked about her days at work, she discovered that in the morning she was most productive en she decided to do her difficult tasks in the morning. She also decided to have a normal lunch break (before that, she skipped it most days), she learned how to manage her time and activities and balance her energy. This resulted in more energy en she balanced her personal life and working life.

Mrs. E was born in Limburg and was working and living in The Hague for many years. Every time she didn’t feel too good about herself, she doubted settling here in The Hague and wandered about going back to Limburg. Mrs. E felt trapped in this dilemma for many years. We did a dilemma-exercise. This exercise helps to find the deeper motives behind the dilemma. Mrs. E learned that she was very much influenced by her friends and family. The pressure of returning to Limburg was very strong because of her family. During the coaching sessions she decided to postpone her final decision, she realized she wanted to live her life more on a day to day basis. She started redecorating her house (she had put that on hold until she could make a final decision), she created more balance in her life and she noticed that she was less troubled.

Mrs. N. had read my dilemma-stresstest and phoned me to let me know she answered “yes” to almost every question. During our conversation I found out that she had a little girl of 12 months, she had a job for 3 days a week and was feeling exhausted. During coaching she discovered that she was still planning her life as she did when she didn’t have a child. Besides her job, husband and child, she was a lawstudent and had a lot of friends. She tried to plan her life as much as she could, but her days got longer and she got more tired. Our focus the next coaching sessions was on finding her balance. She learned how to create more time for herself. She decided to change her housekeeping, so that she created time for her studies. She asked her husband to help her more with housekeeping. Her life was still pretty busy but she felt she had taken control of it again.

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